Dearest ones,
Happy New Year (and decade)!
Hope you had a magnificent holiday break & you have started the year fully recharged and with a clear vision of what you would like to see this new year and decade.
One of the most popular conversations these days are about our "goals" or "intentions" for this new year - believe me, I have led 3 workshops on the topic so far! - and it's beautiful to see how everyone is able to draw from their internal source of inspiration, creativity and desire to create a more sustainable, happier and healthier life.
However, not everyone will follow through, why? Whether their foundations aren't solid enough to support the changes, the fear / inner chat dives in to hold us back, the WHY is not really clear, or they don't have the strategies nor the right support to carry on.
Here are my 7 KEY STRATEGIES to create sustainable long lasting change
1/ Identify your VISION
Once you can see the new and fresher alternative reality you want to create, you can start working on how to get there. Sometimes it's through contrast (what we don't want) that we can really connect with what we really want
2/ Connect with your WHY
Those are your inner values - I want a promotion because with the extra money I will be able to afford a bigger home for my family or I want to run this marathon because I want to fundraise for this cause that means so much to me. The WHY will keep you going especially when things get tricky or you doubt yourself
3/ FOCUS, FOCUS, FOCUS
We can get soooo distracted - social media, external stimulus and by the emergency of the moment or simply our subconscious conditioning that wants to keep us small (as a way to protect us from any "failure" or "rejection) - engaging all our resources and enabling all our bodies (mind, emotions and physical) to work as a team is fundamental.
4/ Be open and receptive to alternative routes
It's important to keep the eyes on the goal but equally valuable to be open and receptive to diversions or shortcuts that life can take us through. Resistance sometimes plays against our benefit and if anything, can keep us away from the natural flow of things - as long as you check that the way is in front of you is supporting your goals, give it a go, you never know how it will unfold. Also, surround yourself with creative and inspiring people - they can teach you something you wouldn't have ever imagined and they might hold the missing piece you were looking for.
5/ Sustainability & Resilience
Let's set realistic goals - don't aim to run a marathon in 2 weeks when we haven't been for a run in 3 years! this is literally setting yourself up to fail - make gradual steps and plan accordingly. Equally, we need to be ready to face set backs and opportunities to revise our goals, and perhaps try and alternative method
6/ Acknowledge your inner badass
Change and transformation are tough processes - mainly because we resist! Give yourself big credit for what you are creating! Internal recognition is key to gravitate joy and a positive outlook (which doesn't mean you can't be realistic). Plus having a support network is essential to keep going - your buddies will believe in you no matter what, and will have your back when you are going through a rough patch - coaches, mentors, accountability groups....
7/ Be kind, be gentle
Be super gentle and kind with the set backs, with the doubts and the fears. They show you an invaluable insight of what's getting in your way to where you want to be. Our past experiences, our "perfectionism" (an unattainable goal that will make us forever unhappy) and any patterns that come up when we are implementing change are absolutely normal and understanding why they are there - primarily to "protect you" - is fundamental for you decide if they support your new life and if not, letting them go and replace them with supportive ones.
Let me know what you think - and if you give it a go, let me know how it goes!
Below you will find some amazing offerings for you to keep the good work going - coaching, mentoring, public classes, workshops and retreats.
With love,
Mon x
